Narcissists Are Self-Absorbed

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The dictionary describes someone who is self-absorbed as someone who is preoccupied with oneself or one’s own affairs to the exclusion of others. Self-absorption is typical of narcissists. Narcissists focus primarily on themselves to the exclusion of anyone else. They are self-centered, selfish, and self-obsessed. Mainly, narcissists are just all about themselves. Period.

People who are self-absorbed do not make good friends. Just try telling a narcissist about anything that concerns you, and you’ll most likely be disappointed by the outcome. Narcissists do not listen to you. They are only concerned about themselves – their needs, their feelings, and their thoughts. They care little about you or your problems. Your needs do not matter to them.

Narcissists are shallow sounding boards. They do not listen to you to hear you. They listen to you for opportunities to speak and share their opinions. Their reality is the only reality that matters, and believe me, their reality is not the same as yours. They truly are not concerned with your reality, and anything outside of their self-interest is not worth the effort it takes them to listen. So they do not listen. You might as well be talking to yourself.

The only time narcissists will seem to listen is when they have an agenda involving their own self-interests. You are a means to an end. You are a means to their narcissistic supply. Otherwise, they could care less about you even if you adamantly listen to them and help them with their problems. They do not reciprocate. They do not lose their self-absorption long enough to even bother with you. Bottom line … you are insignificant and irrelevant within their world. There is only room enough for “self”. Narcissists are self-absorbed.