The Promise Breakers

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My first broken promise occurred when I was a child at the hands of parents who were tasked with the responsibility to love and care for me. Surely, most parents promise to love and care for their children. Who would expect anything less? I certainly would not have, but I grew to learn very early that promises made would not always be kept. That’s just an element of life.

When I realized my parents were not capable of holding to their promises, it became very apparent to me that I would need to find proof that other people were different. As a child, I set out to find those who would hold true to themselves by holding true to me. Unfortunately, I would be sadly disappointed at times. Promises are not always kept, but the worst at keeping promises are narcissists.

Why Do Narcissists Break Promises?

Narcissists break promises because they are liars. They only follow through on promises when there is something in it for them. Usually, narcissists make promises in front of others for your benefit just to show others that they are noble and worth trusting. In turn, narcissists make you look like a fool when they hold true to their promise in front of others.

These types of promises are publicly made for the purpose of maligning you later. The narcissists’ promises are nothing more than charades they put together to look good in the eyes of others, but eventually others begin to see that they are liars too. Narcissists eventually cannot uphold all of the lies that they tell to keep those promises.

Why Do Narcissists Make Promises They Know They Will Not Keep?

Narcissists make promises to get what they want from you. What they want might be narcissistic supply or something else of value that you have that they want. Simply said, narcissists make promises just to get. What they get is what you have, and what you have is what they want. It sounds more complicated than it is, and we must remember that narcissists do not think in the same way that we do. They are operating in a different realm … a different reality.

Narcissists are set on being master manipulators. They ultimately have no intention of acting on any worded promises to you. They make promises to control you. They realize that their spoken promises make it easy to get what they want from you in the present moment no matter how much later on in the future their claimed promises are supposed to come to fruition. They have distorted your reality by keeping true to their own reality. Theirs is a reality of lies and fictitious promises never to be kept.