Getting The Right Help Is The Best
Getting the right help for mental health struggles is always the best. When I first started out on my journey to getting help for myself, I had experiences with several therapists until I found someone I thought was the best for me at the time. Knowing what I know now, I had a lot to learn even when I found a therapist I thought was the best.
Not all therapists understand personality disorders. Not all therapists have experienced a person in their life who is a narcissist. In fact, many therapists will not treat narcissists for various reasons. One of the main reasons is that narcissists are said to be exhausting as clients and can rarely be treated for their condition.
When I pursued mental health counseling as a degree choice, I foolishly believed that I could help narcissists struggling with this disorder. I figured that showing my empathic and loving side would endear them to me. I believed that with the right amount of spiritual knowledge, I would be empowered with a supernatural gift that would help me to impact the lives of those struggling with narcissistic personality disorder.
All I needed was a huge reality check with the experiences I had with the narcissists already in my life to help me figure out that I was damned if I did attempt to help narcissists. I surely learned quickly enough that I could not help the narcissists that were in my life already. In fact, not one narcissist in my life believed they even had a problem or even needed help. Instead, they projected all of their problems onto me, and the problems I already had just became a lot worse. I could barely help myself.
Needless to say, my own struggles with narcissists helped me to revamp my educational goals in mental health, and I soon dropped out of the pursuit. If I could scarcely find the right help for myself, I wondered how much trouble other victims and targets of narcissistic personalities had with these same difficulties. With my suffering and struggles with the effects of narcissistic abuse, I began to care just a little bit less about how to help narcissists with their struggles especially if they regarded therapy as something they did not need.
What was the sense in helping someone who treated such help with disdain? So I decided to focus on myself. I was an unhealed mess. Aside from my struggles with depression and anxiety, I was struggling with the effects of years of unhealed trauma. I grew up in a narcissistic home environment. I had not yet made the correlation that most of these unhealed areas had been directly impacted by my struggles with narcissistic personalities.
It was not even a therapist or another person that helped me to make this connection. It was through my constant struggles to understand on my own issues. In addition, there was a lot of divine intervention on my behalf. Getting the right help took some time, but I would not get the help that I needed for my struggles with narcissists from a professional. Stay tuned for more in the next post.
My Voice Unchained 