Recognizing when a narcissist or toxic person is trying to rush you into making a hasty decision is crucial for protecting yourself from potential manipulation or exploitation. Here are some signs to watch out for:
- Pressure and Urgency: The person consistently emphasizes the urgency of making the decision immediately, using phrases like “you need to decide right now” or “time is running out.”
- There’s not a narcissist that I haven’t known who didn’t rush me to make hasty decisions. Narcissists want things right now. They are not patient and will not wait. The narcissists I knew would grow easily agitated with me when I wouldn’t make a decision right away.
- I’m known for taking my time with decisions. I have to know what’s right and best for me. So, decisions would often take me a lot of consideration and time. Narcissists I knew would always attempt to rush me through my decisions, but I almost never gave them what they wanted from me. Their impatience and immaturity in getting me to move fast with decisions would only be met with my willful ignorance of their foolishness.
- Lack of Information: They provide limited or vague information about the decision, making it difficult for you to fully understand the implications or consequences.
- A narcissist I refer to as the Professional Gaslighting Narcissist (PGN) was notorious for attempting to get me to make hasty decisions at work as a part of her agenda to get as many people on her side as possible. This narcissist would pretend to rally up proponents for what seemed to be a worthy cause on the surface but would turn out to be nothing more than a smear campaign against one of her enemies.
- The PGN would always bring something around for people to sign off on as a way to make claims that a signature was her entitled right to get what she wanted from anyone. Any information she provided about her agenda was always vague and lacking in specific details. I never understood why she’d be offended when people questioned her.
- This narcissist grew tired of coming around to me about anything because I frequently questioned her about everything. I always found her to be the indirect center of a lot of work drama. So I knew to question her because I would then be able to discern her true motives for the so-called supportive attention she craved so much. It was never just a cut and dry situation with her.
In the next post, I continue with more reasons, along with examples, narcissists like to rush others into making decisions for their benefit.
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