What happens to a narcissist when you let go of them?

When you let go of a narcissist, it can have several potential effects and outcomes, both for you and for the narcissist. Here’s an overview of what can happen:

1. For You:
   • Emotional Healing: Letting go of a narcissist can be a significant step toward emotional healing. It allows you to distance yourself from the toxicity and regain your emotional well-being.
   • Personal Growth: You may experience personal growth and self-discovery as you rebuild your life without the narcissist’s influence.
   • Restored Self-Esteem: Over time, your self-esteem and self-confidence can gradually improve as you no longer face constant criticism and manipulation.
   • Healthier Relationships: You’re more likely to form healthier, more supportive relationships with others who genuinely care about your well-being.
   • Independence: Letting go of a narcissist often brings a sense of independence and freedom from their control and demands.
2. For the Narcissist:
   • Reactions Vary: How a narcissist reacts to being let go of can vary widely. They may exhibit a range of responses, from anger and attempts to regain control to indifference.
   • Seeking New Targets: Some narcissists may quickly seek out new targets or sources of narcissistic supply (attention and admiration) to replace the person who let them go.
   • Hoovering: In some cases, narcissists may engage in “hoovering,” which involves attempts to draw you back into the relationship. They may use promises, apologies, or manipulation to regain your attention.
   • Losing a Source of Supply: Letting go of a narcissist deprives them of a source of narcissistic supply. This can lead to feelings of emptiness or a search for alternative sources of validation.

It’s essential to remember that narcissistic personality traits and behaviors are deeply ingrained, and not all narcissists are open to self-reflection or change. While some may continue their patterns of manipulation and exploitation, others may eventually seek therapy or help for their issues.

Ultimately, the effects of letting go of a narcissist can be influenced by the individual’s specific characteristics, the nature of the relationship, and the extent of the narcissistic behaviors. It’s crucial to prioritize your own well-being and seek support from friends, family, or a mental health professional during this process.