The longer one stays in a narcissistically abusive relationship, the longer the spin cycle of abuse. When I speak of a spin cycle, I mean that the abuse continues in a circular pattern non-stop.
Truthfully, there is no end to the abuse one experiences in such a relationship unless they completely go no-contact from a narcissist and all who are connected to that narcissist. A narcissist lives to make their victims suffer. They actually thrive on the suffering of others even in one’s attempt to break the cycle of abuse.
If you are in such a relationship, whether it be romantic, familial, platonic, or business, you may take note of how the spin cycle of abuse increases at every turn. There is the idealization phase of love bombing, the devaluation phase of insults, and the discard phase of desertion.
These phases of narcissistic abuse are continuous as long as you are in relationship with a narcissist. Once you leave, the cycle will become more limited with time and will eventually end, unless that narcissist is unrelenting in their attempts to hoover you back into their lair. For the cycle to end, it will take perseverance and tenacity on your part because a narcissist often does not let go without a fight.
In fact, despite a narcissist discarding their victims, they more than likely do so under limited capacities. The discard phase is more or less a time when a victim of a narcissist’s abuses is set aside and left alone until a narcissist deems when to give attention to their victim again. A victim is never discarded by a narcissist for long except in those occasions when it has been made clear to them that the victim is done with them for good. Even still, that might not stop a narcissist for long.
The spin cycle of narcissistic abuse is an exhaustive cycle of unrelenting heartache and pain. Continue on to the next post which discusses ways to end the spin cycle of narcissistic abuse.
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