Don’t ever underestimate what a narcissist sees about you. They see you and your gifts and are very aware of them. They see things about you that you might not see at all.
For the most part, a narcissist studies their subject. They get to know their subject even before ever introducing themselves to the subject.
Looking back over past situations in my life, I have seen clearly how a narcissist had been observing and studying my every movement all along.
A narcissist is very observant and manipulative. They will often engage in what is known as “love bombing” during the initial stages of a relationship, where they shower their target with excessive attention, compliments, and gifts to create a sense of dependence.
However, this behavior is typically part of a manipulative strategy rather than a genuine expression of care. So it’s important to be aware of the signs of narcissistic behavior, such as a lack of empathy, an inflated sense of self-importance, and a tendency to exploit others.
It’s also important to establish and maintain healthy boundaries in relationships as a crucial step in recognizing red flags early to protect against potential manipulation.
“I Wish You Could See Yourself The Way I See You” – Said The Narcissist
I’ve heard the above statement on quite a number of occasions from narcissistic individuals. I had always attributed it to something a narcissist would see about me that I could not.
I had no idea that a narcissist was zeroing in on my strengths and weaknesses to later use against me and/or use for their own benefit. With time, I began to realize that their statement for wish I could see myself as they saw me was not a compliment at all. It was more said in their state of envy against me and what they perceived to be traits they lacked and wished to have for themselves.
To a narcissist, I was simply not using my talents or gifts as they believed that I should use them. So they were not ever truly complimenting me as I thought. Instead, they were being critical of me and my gifts but under the guise that they actually cared about me and wanted what was best for me.
In actuality, the narcissistic individuals I knew only truly ever cared about themselves and how they could best utilize my gifts for themselves. So, a narcissist wish for me to see myself as they saw me was an affront to who I was as a person. Basically, they regarded me as less than them - beneath them. How dare I have gifts that they don’t have and they can’t use for themselves.
A Narcissist Doesn’t See You At All
From my experience with narcissists, they don’t see you at all. They only see the benefits of using you. That’s basically it. They only see your value as it aligns with their goals for themselves. Otherwise, they could care less about you. In fact, they don’t care about you at all … until they see the benefit of utilizing what they think believe you might not see about yourself.
Again, from my experience, whenever a narcissist has said they wish I could see about me what they see about me, there was a longing within their eyes that felt almost tangible to me. They longed for something that was just beyond their grasp, and when they announced what they could see about me, it was then that they took hold of attempting to grasp it in an effort to contain it for themselves.
In Reflection
Looking back, not long after some of the narcissist I knew made such a statement to me, it wasn’t long afterwards that I eventually had no choice but to cut myself away from a relationship with them.
Specifically, those narcissists tried to contain me and possess me. They attempted to gain control over me in a way that felt grossly unnatural.
At times, I even felt a sense of danger within their presence, and that’s when I knew their envy had become something more ugly entirely. It was then that I knew I had to free myself from the hook of their tentacles.
Beware of the narcissist who makes such a comment or something like it. It may seem innocent, but this type of envy knows no bounds. They will seek to possess what they desire, and if you’re not careful, you could possibly become a casualty of their desires to have what they want by any means necessary.
My Voice Unchained 