10 Ways To Tell A Person Is A Flying Monkey – Under A Narcissist’s Spell

A “flying monkey” is a term used to describe someone who is manipulated by a narcissist to do their bidding, often unknowingly, and helps the narcissist maintain control over others. Here are some signs that a person might be a flying monkey under a narcissist’s spell:

1. Blind Loyalty: The person shows unwavering loyalty to the narcissist, defending them even when their behavior is clearly harmful or unreasonable.
2. Spreading Gossip: They may spread rumors or gossip initiated by the narcissist to damage the reputation of others, without questioning the truth of what they’re saying.
3. Unwillingness to Listen: When confronted with evidence of the narcissist’s wrongdoings, they refuse to listen or acknowledge it, often changing the subject or dismissing the information.
4. Attack Dogs: They might attack or criticize anyone the narcissist targets, often using the same language or accusations the narcissist uses.
5. Emotional Manipulation: The person often tries to make others feel guilty or ashamed for standing up to the narcissist or setting boundaries with them.
6. Echoing the Narcissist: Their opinions and narratives closely mirror those of the narcissist, as if they have no individual perspective on the issues.
7. Enforcing Control: They help the narcissist maintain control over others by reinforcing the narcissist’s rules, expectations, and demands.
8. Ignoring Red Flags: They overlook or excuse the narcissist’s abusive or manipulative behavior, often rationalizing it as justified or deserved.
9. Double Standards: They hold others to high standards of behavior while giving the narcissist a pass on similar or worse actions.
10. Isolating Victims: They participate in efforts to isolate the narcissist’s targets, making it harder for those targets to get support or validation from others.

Understanding these signs can help in recognizing when someone is acting as a flying monkey for a narcissist and can guide appropriate responses, such as setting boundaries, seeking support, and maintaining a clear perspective on the situation.