Cut Off The Narc’s Supply, If You Dare! – Part 1

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Cut Off The Narc’s Supply … If You Dare!

I dared to cut off The Identity Thief’s supply to me, and I went no-contact with her through silence. I did expect and was prepared for some type of repercussion to deal with as a result, but none could have prepared me for the extreme. As I sit here to blog this post, I am in utter shock and absolute disbelief! I am literally speechless.

I dared to cut off the narcissist’s supply. I dared to cut the Identity Thief off from what I now realize is one of her primary sources of supply. Outside of her significant other, I have always been a consistent and primary source of narcissistic supply to her for years. It literally never occurred to me that I was valuable as supply.

The only time that I have had a narcissist work hard to desperately keep me has been when dealing with my mother. Out of any narcissist that I have ever dealt with, my mother pulls out all of the arsenal in her toolkit when she wants to light me to the fire. Now, I would say even my mother has met her match.

Sure, I have had other narcissists not want to let go of me, but those were the times that I was drawn into a confrontational battle of wills to stand my ground for myself. Those narcissists decided it was better off to discard me, but those were also the times that left me befuddled because I always felt that I was left looking like the crazy one.

After all, I was the one who was standing my ground voicing my thoughts in an argument against a narcissist. I was the one who appeared crazy because of all of the things I needed to get off my chest. The narcissists had me right where they wanted me and found me worthy of earning their discard. Their discard was all I needed to go no-contact. Their discards induced my effort towards no-contact because that was my primary choice.

However, those times that I remained silent and chose to go no-contact with no words left the narcissists either reaching out to get no reply from me or withering away into the sunset wherever narcissists go when they disappear from my life. I usually do not hear from those narcissists again, and when a few and their flying monkeys have glibly reached out to me to reconnect via social media, I have not given them any of my time. I keep it moving.

When I am done with a narcissist, I am done. It seems take a lot to push to the edge, but when I am pushed to the edge, I jump to free myself. I feel ready at that point to get away. So when I decided to silently go no-contact from The Identity Thief, I was expecting at least two things to happen but not in the way they happened especially while I was in the middle of my gathering my thoughts to blog and post.

I Dared To Cut Off The Narc’s Supply

I dared to cut off the narc’s supply, and the plan worked for a while. In fact, I thought my plan of no-contact worked a little too well. I figured The Identity Thief had gotten the message loud and clear and decided I was not worth the hassle. I figured she had bigger fish to fry. She had new supply. I figured new supply would be much better than old supply. I figured that new supply would even be more pliable. Most of her supply to fill her narcissistic cup are people who are teachable students. Not to call myself a dog, but the idiom works well here. How would she be able teach an old dog new tricks?

She knew that I was on to her. Yet, her other sources of narcissistic supply do not seem to realize the method to her madness. Plus, she makes sure that I never get to know the other supply. The few times that I have met these other sources, they have all appeared to be unwittingly sitting ducks who believe everything she says. It is like they are under some kind of spell and have the fawn affect like deer caught in headlights. Her supply have even questioned her as to how she and I even came to be friends!

Needless to say, I cut this narc off, and I expected two things – that she would be furious enough to blindside me with a long letter or she would angrily get back at me to sabotage me in some way. I did not expect what actually happened though, and I was stunned speechless. In fact, I was so stunned, that my lack of foresight into all of the ways that she would have held onto me as her supply source actually landed me back into my original position. This narcissist is not going to leave my life, and she is not going to let me leave her life if she can help it. In the moment that I realized this, I was completely immobilized. I was netted in my own domain, and the reaction of The Identity Thief left me not knowing what I could do.