A narcissist often feels a persistent need to “hoover” as a means of maintaining control and power over their targets/victims. This behavior stems from their deep-seated insecurities and a desire to manipulate and exploit others for their own benefit. By hoovering, a narcissist seeks to regain control over their targets/victims, reestablishing a sense of dominance and superiority. Additionally, they may use hoovering as a tactic to alleviate their own feelings of inadequacy or abandonment, seeking validation and attention from their targets/victims to boost their fragile ego. Overall, hoovering is a tool used by narcissists to maintain their grip on their targets/victims and perpetuate the cycle of abuse.
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